Luke 9

Anyone who intends to come with me has to let me lead. You're not in the driver's seat - I am. Don't run from suffering - embrace it. Follow me and I'll show you how. Self-help is no help at all. Self-sacrifice is the way, my way, to finding yourself, your true self.

What good would it do to get everything you want and lose you, the real you?

(The words of Jesus from Luke 9, according to The Message.)